Who's That Guy Standing Next To You?

When we became mom’s, we committed to taking care of these little ones until they became adults. Before we became a mother, we thought we could do it all; be mom and stay committed to other relationships and outside commitments. Little did we know how much time we would devote to our children and how consuming being a mother can be.

While we have been mothering and doing all the things it takes to mother well, there is someone who may have taken a back seat. There’s a person in your home that your children resemble, that comes and talks to you when they get home from work, that sneaks in a hello, how are you doing in between bath times and nap times, yea that guy, his title is husband! You might remember him, he’s the guy you stood next to and recited vows to, however many years ago, he’s the guy you said you wanted to do life with, he’s the one you said you loved and cherished, yup, there he is waiting for you.

Like many moms you may have forgotten all about date nights and baecations because the babies have taken over. Well ladies, let’s talk about ways we can incorporate our mates into this busy ever changing life so that we can keep our relationships alive. Remember we only have eighteen years committed to our children but a lifetime with our spouse, so let’s make the most of it.

Schedule Time

By now, you probably can tell that I love schedules! I enjoy being intentional with time as much as I can. From the time I got married to the present day, my time with my husband has changed. Whether it be because of our outside commitments, work schedules changed or because our family grew. We went from having date nights once a week to once a month to seasons where we didn’t have them at all. There were seasons where we went out, and seasons where date nights were in the house.

Depending on the season you are in, date night will look different. That time could be during nap time each day, after the kids go to sleep at night, or on the weekends when you can get a babysitter. Your time together doesn’t have to be elaborate. Make sure you figure out a specific time in your schedule to have some face time. This is going to benefit your relationship.

Ideas for Date Night

• Outdoor movie night and dinner (this could be in the backyard)

• Game night

• Choose a movie series or TV series to watch for the month together

• Workout together or learn a new sport

• Take a class together (dance, cooking, painting, pottery)

• Spa day

• Read a book together and discuss it

• Dinner cruise

• Take a walk through your neighborhood

• Try local restaurants for each date night

• Attend a concert or sporting event

• If your adventurous participate in an adult obstacle course

• Be a tourist in your city

• Go bowling or an arcade

• Take the long way home (streets instead of the freeway, if possible)

• Learn how to play his favorite video games (you’ll earn a few points with him)

• Scroll YouTube or your favorite social media outlet and watch your favorite videos of the day (this was one of our favorite things when we had newborns and we couldn’t get out the house)

Encouragement

It’s the weekend! Whatever you decide to do, do it together and have fun. We spend a lot of time being serious and dealing with the heaviness of life, enjoy your time with your spouse and remember mommas, YOU GOT THIS!